I know this is a late response, but, nonetheless, it should be addressed. I’m starting to see a lot of single women really taking this advice to heart. I know Steve Harvey means well, but I’m not sure the advice he’s giving is really going to benefit women in the long run.
One of the big things that I noticed in the book was that he proposes women take a very aggressive stance in their relationships. By aggressive I mean that he advises women, early on, to ask the men that they’re dating what are their “specific” intentions with her.
I disagree.
If haven’t even got to know you…how do you expect me to know what I want to do with you? It doesn’t make much sense in my opinion.
Also, there is a 90 day rule that he strongly demands women adhere to. I’m a little weary of any hard fast unbreakable rule when it comes to relationships. Steve Harvey defends this argument by stating that when he worked at Ford, they didn’t give him any “benefits” until after 90 days. I think a better analogy would be pay (wages).
I doubt Steve Harvey would’ve worked for a company for three months without being paid. He would’ve waited the customary two to three weeks to get all formalities out of the way (for Ford, the paperwork to send the check and for a woman, the necessary dates for her to believe you won’t perceive her as a hoe). If not paid after that period of time Steve would’ve a) left the job, b) raised hell about not being paid, or c) both.
As I said before, I think Steve means well. Things are a little bit different these days though. He is slightly older than the majority of the single crowd now. Things have changed.
“Play or Be Played” is a better book for Black women to read. If you guys have time you should check it out as well.
Play The Game Fair.
Chris
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