You could say it was a waste of time to go out. It wasn’t really though. It was Friday the 13th and I went to a club that usually has a good size crowd. Seeing that it was the day before Valentine’s I assumed a lot of people would be out kicking it. Not so much…
The maximum amount of people that came through that night was twenty. It was cool though. I got to work some of the guys that were there. “What time this end?” “Does this club usually jump?” All of the general questions that get you into a talkative mood and get onlookers to wondering, “How does this guy know everybody?”
There were only a couple women that were there, but I worked with what I had. I didn’t get to practice any of my material on them because for one, they opened me and two, they left after maybe an hour or two.
Good things that came from this night...
-Got in good with the promoter:
I didn’t plan on staying that long, but I had planned on spending a lot more. I talked to the promoter on some general stuff for a little while and gave him and the bartender the excess money I had planned on spending. Both of them are definitely going to hook me up next time I fall through (from their mouths, not mine).
-I worked with what I had:
On a slow night, I’ve found it’s real easy to just go home or just chill out and get real introverted. I stayed social the whole time and I’m going to count that as a success. I talked to guys, I talked to the women, the bodyguards, promoters, whoever…the thing is I kept talking. You can’t get the woman (or women) of your dreams if you can’t walk up, talk to her, and keep the conversation going.
-I found the strongest Long Island Iced Teas in the world!!!
Pretty self-explanatory ;)
Play The Game Fair.
Chris
Saturday, February 21, 2009
The Top 3 Things That Mess Relationships Up (That You Can’t Control)
First off…I already know. Don’t remind me that I’m slipping on my nights out. I work my material every chance I get and, these days, it’s not that often. One of my guys was in the ER all last night (the night I was going out). Stuff happens…you gotta be there for those you care about.
Now on to the topic….
As I reflect back on the past relationships that I have had, I saw a few things come up repeatedly. After asking around, I realized that many people have these same issues in their relationships. Sometimes these issues end relationships. I’m very close to a lot of military guys and, with many of them, being killed in action or their wives cheating on them while they are on a deployment is talked and joked about so often that it doesn’t become such a mental block anymore. Maybe after giving you guys these 3 things, they won’t become such a big thing in your relationships.
1. The number. There is no way around it…there really isn’t. There isn’t any good that comes from telling or asking about it either. From a woman’s perspective, there is a very high incentive to lie. Why INVITE dishonesty into your relationship?
On the man’s side, there is no number that she tells you that is going to be good enough…none. If she says just you, she might be lying. If it’s 10, she’s a ho. If it’s one other, you want to know if his penis was bigger. Just avoid it all together…
2. Insecurities. I’m not talking about the other person’s issues. I’m talking about yours. When it comes down to it…if she continued to date you, it’s not that big a deal. If you’re balding, she saw that when you came over. If it’s your money issues, she saw after the first date. If it’s something sexual (and you both have had sex more than twice), she doesn’t care…that much. Just like when you went over there and continued to get at her after you saw she had a little pooch, she has accepted your faults. Don’t make something that’s not a problem a problem.
3. Control. Please accept the fact that she’s her own person. You can call, argue, and all that other mess, but when it comes down to it…you can’t control if she cheats. It’s like a virus. You can do stuff to prevent it. You can treat her right and give what she needs (physically and emotionally). A guy can even try to treat the symptoms by getting his act together or talking it out with his significant other. Now most good women won’t cheat if they’re being treated well, but it works both ways. She can’t stop you from being with other people if you want to and you can’t stop her.
There they are. Stop worrying about these 3 things and your relationship or relationships will get better. A wise man once said (and I wish I remember who he was), “Work on what’s in your means to control, pray on everything else that’s not.” That’s real…
P.S. All you non-religious people substitute hope in for pray.
Play The Game Fair.
Chris
Now on to the topic….
As I reflect back on the past relationships that I have had, I saw a few things come up repeatedly. After asking around, I realized that many people have these same issues in their relationships. Sometimes these issues end relationships. I’m very close to a lot of military guys and, with many of them, being killed in action or their wives cheating on them while they are on a deployment is talked and joked about so often that it doesn’t become such a mental block anymore. Maybe after giving you guys these 3 things, they won’t become such a big thing in your relationships.
1. The number. There is no way around it…there really isn’t. There isn’t any good that comes from telling or asking about it either. From a woman’s perspective, there is a very high incentive to lie. Why INVITE dishonesty into your relationship?
On the man’s side, there is no number that she tells you that is going to be good enough…none. If she says just you, she might be lying. If it’s 10, she’s a ho. If it’s one other, you want to know if his penis was bigger. Just avoid it all together…
2. Insecurities. I’m not talking about the other person’s issues. I’m talking about yours. When it comes down to it…if she continued to date you, it’s not that big a deal. If you’re balding, she saw that when you came over. If it’s your money issues, she saw after the first date. If it’s something sexual (and you both have had sex more than twice), she doesn’t care…that much. Just like when you went over there and continued to get at her after you saw she had a little pooch, she has accepted your faults. Don’t make something that’s not a problem a problem.
3. Control. Please accept the fact that she’s her own person. You can call, argue, and all that other mess, but when it comes down to it…you can’t control if she cheats. It’s like a virus. You can do stuff to prevent it. You can treat her right and give what she needs (physically and emotionally). A guy can even try to treat the symptoms by getting his act together or talking it out with his significant other. Now most good women won’t cheat if they’re being treated well, but it works both ways. She can’t stop you from being with other people if you want to and you can’t stop her.
There they are. Stop worrying about these 3 things and your relationship or relationships will get better. A wise man once said (and I wish I remember who he was), “Work on what’s in your means to control, pray on everything else that’s not.” That’s real…
P.S. All you non-religious people substitute hope in for pray.
Play The Game Fair.
Chris
Tuesday, February 17, 2009
The Relationship Problems I DON'T Have....
Interesting title right? Well I’ve been talking to some of my close friends (most of which are 1-woman men) and their conversations always lead up to or end up on their lady problems…without fail.
That’s not the problem though. If that’s what you like, by all means chase that to your heart’s content. There are many times, though, where they are SO FRUSTRATED. “She doesn’t get it, she doesn’t listen, and she isn’t trying.” This argument, that argument…
I can honestly say that I can’t remember the last time I had an argument with a significant other. I don’t have to. If she wants to argue or do things I don’t agree with, I leave. I’ll continue to date other people until she calms down or gets it together. The thing is…she knows this too. I don’t have to tell her either. Women’s intuition is real. Because of that, I don’t have too many problems.
Now if I want to own my own business, I have to deal with the downturns. I might have to cut costs, I might have to miss a few dinners out…hell, there might be some bouts of mini-depression mixed in with a lack of health insurance.
What it does have though (in any business that you may own) is freedom and potential. Most millionaires and (I believe) all billionaires own their own business. You can be real comfortable with a job, but it’s unlikely you’ll be rich and you, undoubtedly, will always have a boss.
This relates directly to relationships. Married men will love and be loved by their wives in ways unmarried men don’t understand. They will get to have a real connection, get sex on a regular basis, and will overall be pretty comfortable. Married men might not have any dry spells, but they won’t have many things single men do (multiple relationships, different escapades, etc.). Some married men might have these, but they will be completely violating their marriages while doing so. They’ll always have that boss too…in most long term relationships the woman is usually the dominant one.
Bringing it all together….
While I was talking to one of my close friends, I told him that at this point in my life the number one thing I need in my relationships isn’t love…it’s behavior. After saying that, he likened me to a pimp (in a very derogatory manner). I took offense because I pride myself on being a gentleman. I treat the women I date very well and I am open to falling in love. The thing is, though, I need a woman who can stick to the type of relationship we both agreed to. Now there’s no formal contract or anything, but if we have a mutual understanding then there should be no confusion…and it has to stay that way. Anything else and we can no longer date.
The relationship ends when we have problems.
My relationships better my life…not complicate it (I think this is what Jay-Z meant).
Play The Game Fair.
Chris
That’s not the problem though. If that’s what you like, by all means chase that to your heart’s content. There are many times, though, where they are SO FRUSTRATED. “She doesn’t get it, she doesn’t listen, and she isn’t trying.” This argument, that argument…
I can honestly say that I can’t remember the last time I had an argument with a significant other. I don’t have to. If she wants to argue or do things I don’t agree with, I leave. I’ll continue to date other people until she calms down or gets it together. The thing is…she knows this too. I don’t have to tell her either. Women’s intuition is real. Because of that, I don’t have too many problems.
Now if I want to own my own business, I have to deal with the downturns. I might have to cut costs, I might have to miss a few dinners out…hell, there might be some bouts of mini-depression mixed in with a lack of health insurance.
What it does have though (in any business that you may own) is freedom and potential. Most millionaires and (I believe) all billionaires own their own business. You can be real comfortable with a job, but it’s unlikely you’ll be rich and you, undoubtedly, will always have a boss.
This relates directly to relationships. Married men will love and be loved by their wives in ways unmarried men don’t understand. They will get to have a real connection, get sex on a regular basis, and will overall be pretty comfortable. Married men might not have any dry spells, but they won’t have many things single men do (multiple relationships, different escapades, etc.). Some married men might have these, but they will be completely violating their marriages while doing so. They’ll always have that boss too…in most long term relationships the woman is usually the dominant one.
Bringing it all together….
While I was talking to one of my close friends, I told him that at this point in my life the number one thing I need in my relationships isn’t love…it’s behavior. After saying that, he likened me to a pimp (in a very derogatory manner). I took offense because I pride myself on being a gentleman. I treat the women I date very well and I am open to falling in love. The thing is, though, I need a woman who can stick to the type of relationship we both agreed to. Now there’s no formal contract or anything, but if we have a mutual understanding then there should be no confusion…and it has to stay that way. Anything else and we can no longer date.
The relationship ends when we have problems.
My relationships better my life…not complicate it (I think this is what Jay-Z meant).
Play The Game Fair.
Chris
Thursday, February 12, 2009
Don't Pull Out (WR 4)
This is the weekend recap from January 30, 2009. I know it’s been a couple weeks. I journal write most of my nights out in present tense so this entry will be written as such.
It was a good night. I can’t complain. Although I was managing a party mainly, I was able to stay in set (conversations) all of the free time I had. Being engaged with people the whole time you are at a venue is a great thing!!!!
I got my first official close (date) from this type of gaming. Good chick…might work out (It didn’t because her friend wanted me to get at her and the jealousy messed it up). I pulled another YL (young lady from now on) in a more normal fashion. The only reason I didn’t try the usual material was because I felt I had too much social proof. I didn’t feel the need to play hard-to-get or high status. I was managing the venue that night and had a party afterwards at my place…what did I have to prove?
Overall….the night was cool. It was also cool to have my little brother come out and see me in action.
I learned two things tonight. The lessons may seem contradictory, but they’re not. The first was to stay in conversations. Even in situations where the women might not feel me, I can learn to read body language and practice the material by sticking it out. The second lesson was that sometimes you can break the rules. That doesn’t mean to give yourself reasons to quit, leave, or just not approach. It means to know when to skip certain parts, when to comfort her, tease her, or make things awkward.
Basically, train your gut well enough that you won’t get screwed for listening to it.
Play The Game Fair.
Chris
It was a good night. I can’t complain. Although I was managing a party mainly, I was able to stay in set (conversations) all of the free time I had. Being engaged with people the whole time you are at a venue is a great thing!!!!
I got my first official close (date) from this type of gaming. Good chick…might work out (It didn’t because her friend wanted me to get at her and the jealousy messed it up). I pulled another YL (young lady from now on) in a more normal fashion. The only reason I didn’t try the usual material was because I felt I had too much social proof. I didn’t feel the need to play hard-to-get or high status. I was managing the venue that night and had a party afterwards at my place…what did I have to prove?
Overall….the night was cool. It was also cool to have my little brother come out and see me in action.
I learned two things tonight. The lessons may seem contradictory, but they’re not. The first was to stay in conversations. Even in situations where the women might not feel me, I can learn to read body language and practice the material by sticking it out. The second lesson was that sometimes you can break the rules. That doesn’t mean to give yourself reasons to quit, leave, or just not approach. It means to know when to skip certain parts, when to comfort her, tease her, or make things awkward.
Basically, train your gut well enough that you won’t get screwed for listening to it.
Play The Game Fair.
Chris
Wednesday, February 11, 2009
Apology
To the world (whatever elite portion that reads these posts) I sincerely apologize. I’m really sorry guys. I didn’t even realize that I had been gone that long.
This is what I’ve been up to:
-Work
-More work
-Occasionally sleep
That’s not all though. This vow of forced celibacy…not messing with the old flings and women in my social circle that are around and willing was only going to last so long. I had to clear the pipes. In a span of maybe three days I came like seven times. I’m feeling so much better now that all of that is out of my system ;)
Oh yeah…from now on (I promise) I’m going to spread my posts out. You might see a few in a short span this time, but that’s just to catch up. Even if I have a lot to say, I plan to keep it to the two a week I said formerly.
Things are hectic, but they are still going pretty good. The experiment is going REAL WELL right now though. The two weekend recaps will be up tonight.
Until then….
Play The Game Fair.
Chris
This is what I’ve been up to:
-Work
-More work
-Occasionally sleep
That’s not all though. This vow of forced celibacy…not messing with the old flings and women in my social circle that are around and willing was only going to last so long. I had to clear the pipes. In a span of maybe three days I came like seven times. I’m feeling so much better now that all of that is out of my system ;)
Oh yeah…from now on (I promise) I’m going to spread my posts out. You might see a few in a short span this time, but that’s just to catch up. Even if I have a lot to say, I plan to keep it to the two a week I said formerly.
Things are hectic, but they are still going pretty good. The experiment is going REAL WELL right now though. The two weekend recaps will be up tonight.
Until then….
Play The Game Fair.
Chris
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