A couple of weeks ago one of the high schools I went to (I went to two high schools. One for freshman and sophomore years and then I transferred to the other one) had their 5 year reunion.
I was very excited to go. I was really eager to see how well everyone was doing, but the big thing for me was to see how I was treated. 5 years has passed. People grown and change, but the people that knew you in high school usually will treat you like the person that they saw you as in high school.
Thankfully, everyone I got to talk to showed me much love. Then again, I made it a point to show love to everyone…no matter if we were tight way back when or if they didn’t have anything going for themselves whatsoever ;)
I flirted a little bit and ran a couple routines, but only playfully. Unfortunately, many of the women that came were with someone.
Sidebar:
The joke of the night was one of the former cheerleaders who had gotten breast implants. Everyone was asking each other if they remembered if she had breasts back then. Whatever…
People are doing well though. One guy is playing poker professionally and three are trying out for professional teams right now. I know they could be lying, but I’m going to choose to believe ;)
The point of this post, though, was that some old friends might not accept the new you that you’re trying to become. They’re comfortable with the you they know now. They might even try to hinder your progress.
If that’s the situation, you have to keep those people away from you. You don’t have to cut them off…but I would.
Play The Game Fair.
Chris
Friday, August 28, 2009
Good Gets Better (WR 7)
I noticed that I had stopped using the “WR” on actual nights when I go out. I’ll be bringing it back. The reports are kind of behind (meaning I did them and didn’t get to writing them). Bear with me.
I know…
Lately, I haven’t been going out to strictly game. I’ve been more focused on showing my guys a good time. It’s cool though. You need to be having fun when you’re out and that’s what I’m up to.
One of my co-workers, “Cam”, just got promoted. Of course we ended up going out to celebrate it. We went to a small bar. When we go in, who do we see but another co-worker. Work-related stories, jokes, and the like turn one beer into ten. Time passes…
I look at my watch and I can’t believe that it’s that late. Another wasted night.
The co-worker we met there offers us to hang out at his spot, but I wasn’t on it. Wasn’t really ready to leave yet. Ah well.
I look over at Cam…he’s been eyeing this one girl for a while (didn’t have the heart to tell him he was starting to appear stalker-ish). I told him to approach. He wouldn’t do it…and I know you all are not surprised by this. I tell him that isn’t that bad or THAT hard (talking to women that is).
Now I can’t remember if he pointed a group out or I did, but I went over and just started talking. He watched. I felt like I was being challenged ;)
I tried very hard not to use any set routines. No unfair advantages because I wanted to do something that he could’ve done. I told a couple stories, but nothing scripted (if you practice enough you just get better at telling stories).
I remember something early on set the conversation off. I told her she looked like she was from the West Coast. Turns out she had lived in Hawaii the past few years before moving to the city. Cool.
Sidebar:
I didn’t pull this out of my butt. She looked from the West Coast. You can get good at these types of cold-reads by throwing some out there and getting a response. You do it enough you can get a feel for it.
What I learned from this:
This exercise did help with that, “running out of things to say” thing. OSC. Observation. Story. Comment. Observe something on her or about her, tell a relevant story about it (please let it be something half-way interesting), and let her comment. You can run this a few times ‘til she bites on a particular topic.
I’m feeling lazy though. I’m not going to describe here. She was tall and I would’ve rated her a 7.5. We did the contact info thing, but I couldn’t follow up. Left for about a week and came back. I didn’t feel like the connection was that strong to make it happen.
That’s all I got.
Play The Game Fair.
Chris
I know…
Lately, I haven’t been going out to strictly game. I’ve been more focused on showing my guys a good time. It’s cool though. You need to be having fun when you’re out and that’s what I’m up to.
One of my co-workers, “Cam”, just got promoted. Of course we ended up going out to celebrate it. We went to a small bar. When we go in, who do we see but another co-worker. Work-related stories, jokes, and the like turn one beer into ten. Time passes…
I look at my watch and I can’t believe that it’s that late. Another wasted night.
The co-worker we met there offers us to hang out at his spot, but I wasn’t on it. Wasn’t really ready to leave yet. Ah well.
I look over at Cam…he’s been eyeing this one girl for a while (didn’t have the heart to tell him he was starting to appear stalker-ish). I told him to approach. He wouldn’t do it…and I know you all are not surprised by this. I tell him that isn’t that bad or THAT hard (talking to women that is).
Now I can’t remember if he pointed a group out or I did, but I went over and just started talking. He watched. I felt like I was being challenged ;)
I tried very hard not to use any set routines. No unfair advantages because I wanted to do something that he could’ve done. I told a couple stories, but nothing scripted (if you practice enough you just get better at telling stories).
I remember something early on set the conversation off. I told her she looked like she was from the West Coast. Turns out she had lived in Hawaii the past few years before moving to the city. Cool.
Sidebar:
I didn’t pull this out of my butt. She looked from the West Coast. You can get good at these types of cold-reads by throwing some out there and getting a response. You do it enough you can get a feel for it.
What I learned from this:
This exercise did help with that, “running out of things to say” thing. OSC. Observation. Story. Comment. Observe something on her or about her, tell a relevant story about it (please let it be something half-way interesting), and let her comment. You can run this a few times ‘til she bites on a particular topic.
I’m feeling lazy though. I’m not going to describe here. She was tall and I would’ve rated her a 7.5. We did the contact info thing, but I couldn’t follow up. Left for about a week and came back. I didn’t feel like the connection was that strong to make it happen.
That’s all I got.
Play The Game Fair.
Chris
Tuesday, August 4, 2009
The Rare Vent…
Just real short…I think.
I need to get this off my chest.
So I was reading some of the message boards of these forums, seeing if there is some stuff I can use. A big thing that keeps coming up is that risk of being caught using routines.
WHAT!?!
First off, everyone…and when I say everyone I mean EVERYONE that is good with women has stuff that he repeats to women. Whether it be this one joke, a funny story, or the way he sets a girl up for the first kiss.
ALL OF THAT STUFF IS A ROUTINE!!!
The issue is the idea of manipulation by practicing it and spreading the info to others. We don’t lie and that’s all I’m concerned with.
Secondly, I “believe”, if I haven’t written it I meant to, I have stressed how important is to have your OWN ROUTINE. You’ll never come off as genuine using somebody else’s material as you will your own. You’ll own the stories because they’re yours. Also, you’ll be able to paraphrase or lengthen it and not worry about remembering.
Lastly, when you’re asked, “Do you practice this?” or “Is this a pick-up line?”, you’re either doing really bad or really really good. You can tell if it’s the latter if you start catching A LOT of IOI’s. When that happens, what’s basically going on is the women can’t believe that she likes you this much and she just met you…
We all are trying to get that problem ;)
Play The Game Fair.
Chris
I need to get this off my chest.
So I was reading some of the message boards of these forums, seeing if there is some stuff I can use. A big thing that keeps coming up is that risk of being caught using routines.
WHAT!?!
First off, everyone…and when I say everyone I mean EVERYONE that is good with women has stuff that he repeats to women. Whether it be this one joke, a funny story, or the way he sets a girl up for the first kiss.
ALL OF THAT STUFF IS A ROUTINE!!!
The issue is the idea of manipulation by practicing it and spreading the info to others. We don’t lie and that’s all I’m concerned with.
Secondly, I “believe”, if I haven’t written it I meant to, I have stressed how important is to have your OWN ROUTINE. You’ll never come off as genuine using somebody else’s material as you will your own. You’ll own the stories because they’re yours. Also, you’ll be able to paraphrase or lengthen it and not worry about remembering.
Lastly, when you’re asked, “Do you practice this?” or “Is this a pick-up line?”, you’re either doing really bad or really really good. You can tell if it’s the latter if you start catching A LOT of IOI’s. When that happens, what’s basically going on is the women can’t believe that she likes you this much and she just met you…
We all are trying to get that problem ;)
Play The Game Fair.
Chris
Monday, August 3, 2009
Getting Back Into It
It’s funny.
Once you start to get a grip of what you’re doing...I think it’s like riding a bike. I was out with my guys. We went to basically just to catch up. It was good times. The waitress seemed to be off…like having a bad day (She was forgetting stuff, coming to check on us late, etc.).
I’ve been reading, “How to Win Friends and Influence People” by Dale Carnegie. It’s a good book. It’s not manipulative either. It’s primarily about being a genuine dude and showing love to people. The book just illustrates how far doing that can take you.
So I cheered her up…teasing her every time she got something wrong. Later she sat down with us.
She was a tall, cute, blonde about 5’11 in flats. Of course she’s not wearing heels because she’s a waitress and on her feet all day (I don’t know if guys remember, but I am so an equal opportunity dater). I usually don’t mess with blondes. I love tall, dark-skinned women, with wide hips, but she’s got 2 out of 3 ;)
I say to myself, “What the Hell” and start running material. Push-pull initially, then a new Argentina story, go into turning questions into statements (guessing my people's occupations), another story about why some men find blondes attractive, I use a jealousy story, then I explain what state breaks are, and for kicks…I throw in a “You blink a lot” neg.
She starts throwing a lot of IOI’s and qualifying herself heavy. Didn’t close her though. Too many people and didn’t want to make her feel awkward. I needed the practice and we linked up on Facebook...so it’s cool.
The best practice of the night though wasn’t directly from her. My friends aren’t in the community. They kept trying to go into boring “What do you do?” and “What do you like?” conversations. I successfully steered the group away from those and I did it pretty smoothly. I also kept everyone involved.
Honestly, I didn’t know how good I was doing…we were her last table. Her boss realized she was having a bad day and let her go home early. She talked with us OVER AN HOUR AFTER WE HAD PAID!!!
She only left after I got up from the table and jokingly said, “I gotta go. Can’t break my curfew.” We’ll see where it goes. I’ll keep you guys posted.
Play The Game Fair.
Chris
P.S. Did you notice that I never asked her about what was wrong? How I didn’t help her re-live those bad emotions while she was with us? If you did…you’re starting to get better ;)
Once you start to get a grip of what you’re doing...I think it’s like riding a bike. I was out with my guys. We went to basically just to catch up. It was good times. The waitress seemed to be off…like having a bad day (She was forgetting stuff, coming to check on us late, etc.).
I’ve been reading, “How to Win Friends and Influence People” by Dale Carnegie. It’s a good book. It’s not manipulative either. It’s primarily about being a genuine dude and showing love to people. The book just illustrates how far doing that can take you.
So I cheered her up…teasing her every time she got something wrong. Later she sat down with us.
She was a tall, cute, blonde about 5’11 in flats. Of course she’s not wearing heels because she’s a waitress and on her feet all day (I don’t know if guys remember, but I am so an equal opportunity dater). I usually don’t mess with blondes. I love tall, dark-skinned women, with wide hips, but she’s got 2 out of 3 ;)
I say to myself, “What the Hell” and start running material. Push-pull initially, then a new Argentina story, go into turning questions into statements (guessing my people's occupations), another story about why some men find blondes attractive, I use a jealousy story, then I explain what state breaks are, and for kicks…I throw in a “You blink a lot” neg.
She starts throwing a lot of IOI’s and qualifying herself heavy. Didn’t close her though. Too many people and didn’t want to make her feel awkward. I needed the practice and we linked up on Facebook...so it’s cool.
The best practice of the night though wasn’t directly from her. My friends aren’t in the community. They kept trying to go into boring “What do you do?” and “What do you like?” conversations. I successfully steered the group away from those and I did it pretty smoothly. I also kept everyone involved.
Honestly, I didn’t know how good I was doing…we were her last table. Her boss realized she was having a bad day and let her go home early. She talked with us OVER AN HOUR AFTER WE HAD PAID!!!
She only left after I got up from the table and jokingly said, “I gotta go. Can’t break my curfew.” We’ll see where it goes. I’ll keep you guys posted.
Play The Game Fair.
Chris
P.S. Did you notice that I never asked her about what was wrong? How I didn’t help her re-live those bad emotions while she was with us? If you did…you’re starting to get better ;)
Saturday, August 1, 2009
The Mind of a Tease
I punked out.
I went out, but I didn’t really practice. Didn’t run any routines for a couple reasons (this time they weren’t excuses), but primarily I couldn’t get into mine…routine that is.
I brought a friend of mine with me. He went through a rough breakup and he’s still not really over yet. He hasn’t had sex with anyone else for about 3 months since it happened. I believe he’ll be joining me in this experiment, so I’ll keep you guys posted on how he improves. We talked about that and I tried to stay productive.
I observed a lot. There are some definite characters at a hood club. Tariq Nasheed has done well to classify these women in his books, but I’ll take a little time to paraphrase his info and add my two cents.
Women need feel appreciated. That is the big underlying desire women have. When they can’t have that…they can settle for attention. Young women get a lot of attention from men for how they look. Older women are appreciated by their husbands and families for what they do (and have done).
Some younger women aren’t appreciated at work or by their boyfriends, so they get attention by wilding out at the club. These women MIGHT get with the promoter or some dopeboy at the club because, sometimes, they’re both out to get attention (through flashing money, buying the bar, bragging, etc.).
I only bring these girls up for one reason. If you get turned down, it’s not personal. Also, if you go out…just don’t waste your time. I’d only do it to see how good I’m getting or to plow.
Before I end this post, I should tell you guys that there were a lot of people at the club that I knew. Cold approach is mainly about going into a place where no one knows each other and making it happen. I usually practice where people don’t know me.
The city I currently reside in is only so big. After a while, unless you’re in a megacity, you start to run into the same people. That’s why I’m going to start to work on social circle stuff. Talk to guys later.
Play The Game Fair.
Chris
I went out, but I didn’t really practice. Didn’t run any routines for a couple reasons (this time they weren’t excuses), but primarily I couldn’t get into mine…routine that is.
I brought a friend of mine with me. He went through a rough breakup and he’s still not really over yet. He hasn’t had sex with anyone else for about 3 months since it happened. I believe he’ll be joining me in this experiment, so I’ll keep you guys posted on how he improves. We talked about that and I tried to stay productive.
I observed a lot. There are some definite characters at a hood club. Tariq Nasheed has done well to classify these women in his books, but I’ll take a little time to paraphrase his info and add my two cents.
Women need feel appreciated. That is the big underlying desire women have. When they can’t have that…they can settle for attention. Young women get a lot of attention from men for how they look. Older women are appreciated by their husbands and families for what they do (and have done).
Some younger women aren’t appreciated at work or by their boyfriends, so they get attention by wilding out at the club. These women MIGHT get with the promoter or some dopeboy at the club because, sometimes, they’re both out to get attention (through flashing money, buying the bar, bragging, etc.).
I only bring these girls up for one reason. If you get turned down, it’s not personal. Also, if you go out…just don’t waste your time. I’d only do it to see how good I’m getting or to plow.
Before I end this post, I should tell you guys that there were a lot of people at the club that I knew. Cold approach is mainly about going into a place where no one knows each other and making it happen. I usually practice where people don’t know me.
The city I currently reside in is only so big. After a while, unless you’re in a megacity, you start to run into the same people. That’s why I’m going to start to work on social circle stuff. Talk to guys later.
Play The Game Fair.
Chris
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