I got an email regarding some last minute resistance that a reader was catching. I thought the response might help others. So here the email (in entirety) goes...
LMR, LMR, LMR. We all hate it honestly. Analyzing the issue you're having is really hard because you never really know what she needs. In essence though, thats always the problem. The woman hasn't had all her needs met that she requires to sleep with you.
The biggest issues that people usually run across are, "I need to know more about you", "I don't want you to leave", and "I don't want you to think I'm a hoe". Fortunately, Sinn, Mystery, and Captain Jack have answered these for us. In a selling situation you want to answer any objections before they come up. Do that with these situations as well. Sinn believes you should tell them how many brothers and sisters you have, what you do for work, etc. so she feels like she knows you better. Mystery usually has comfort stories prepared that lets the woman know that its not all just sexual with her (and because of that, you're likely to stay around). Captain Jack strongly believes that you keep a very strong "non-judgemental" frame and tell stories displaying your ability to keep secrets so that she can be her sexual self with you without consequences.
You can get know her, know her better, and be a friend while having sex with her. Husbands and wives are usually each other's best friend and partner. And you can't have a cut buddy without the buddy ;)
Now me personally, I like to run through the whole process rather quickly. If it doesn't happen by 3rd date, I distance myself (DONT cut them off). Let them know what they're missing. Also, don't be afraid to let things go.
Pick up is all about letting things happen smoothly. If they're not...and you're catching LMR, odds are you messed up somewhere early on. I hope this answered your question. I honestly don't deal with LMR that much.
Play The Game Fair.
Chris
P.S. I'm going to make this a post. Thanks.
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Here's a related post I read a few months ago. The writer is saying that you should be closing on 90% or more of your first dates. Seemed sort of ridiculous to me at first, but then I went out and started doing it. Its mostly basic stuff just executed well. http://www.entropypua.com/blog/closing-on-the-first-date-every-time
ReplyDeleteI like Sinn's 10 questions you need to answer too (as you mentioned above).
Thanks for the blog btw. I've enjoyed reading it.
I apologize for the late response. That article by Entropy was very interesting...I think he's on to something.
ReplyDeleteAs far as the blog goes, I'm going to keep going 'til somebody asks me to stop (at which point I think I'll speed up lol).
I appreciate the comment. Please keep them coming.