Lounges/Bars vs. Clubs (Pt. 1)

I’ve been promising this for a while. Here it goes. Keep in mind; I AM NOT A GURU and/or EXPERT!!! I’m just a guy like you who happens to practice (odds are) in the field a little more than you. This is what I’ve learned from my experience. Your experience may be different.

Now that my disclaimer is out of the way…

If I had to choose, I’d pick the bars/lounges over the clubs. The focus of the women is different in each one. This first one will be about clubs though.

Clubs have the hood chicks. I can’t lie. I have a soft spot for them. They are the ones that I am very VERY attracted to on a very (almost purely) sexual level. I love them. If you’re looking for golds in the mouth, rings in the tongue, ignorantly tight skirts, and/or real big butts…that’s where you want to be.

It is so loud in the club!!! If you’re going to talk to a chick you have to “peck” (talk in the ear back and forth to each other). I know most PUA guru’s hate this because it appears like you’re supplicating to her on a subconscious level. It’s just too loud though. To avoid this, just make sure she’s leaning in to you more than you are to her. To achieve this all you have to do is act like you can’t hear her. If she is even mildly interested in getting her point across, most hood women are, she’ll come in to you or pull you in (which is cool too because it starts the kino interaction).

You don’t have a lot of time…at all. Women come to clubs to dance, drink, and occasionally fight. You have to be relatively direct.

Examples:

“I would’ve hated myself if I didn’t say hi so…what up?”

“You went to (what ever high school is in the area), didn’t you?”

“Me and my boy were trying to figure out what was the worst pick up line. What’s the worst one you’ve heard?”

Sidebar:

If you haven’t noticed through my previous posts, this last one is my default opener with Black women. Almost always works.

Back to the post….

Hood chicks don’t have patience. They want to know what you want now, five minutes ago. These girls were actually perfectly content just chilling with their girls and going home. That doesn’t mean that they’re not open to meeting a good man. They are, but they aren’t tripping that night if they don’t either.

Here’s the order of what I’ll usually do.

1. Connect with her or make her laugh.
2. General observations with some small cold read.
3. Make her laugh again.
4. Ask her to keep you company while YOU get a drink.

Going to the bar is the escalation. If she’s interested, she’ll go. Make sure the bar isn’t too far away. That’s one of the reasons why the women I target are usually in between the bar and the dance floor. Point to it and show her girls where you two are going. Ask them if possible. Use, “just over there” and “real quick”. You can do comfort there because the two of you are alone and, finally, she can hear you without the “pecking”. This is where you want to number close. After this I usually walk her back, crack a joke to the friends, and catch her on the day two. Grinding is the equivalent of the kiss close if you’ve talked to her already (if not it doesn’t mean anything at all).

I know that the drink thing seems a little AFC-ish (simpish for players). Bear with me. Clubs are, by nature, hood. Hood chicks are coming to dance, drink, or fight. Going to get a drink gives her an excuse to isolate with you from her friends without judgment. If you're talking to a lady that already has a drink in hand, this problem is already solved.

As far as whom to game, the girls already at the bar will say anything to get a drink. Leave them alone. Girls in the thick of the dance floor are into either dancing or teasing. It’s very hard to properly game them. The ones kind of in the middle of the two give you the most play.

There are a few downsides to clubs.

1. Too many promotes. Because of this, you get TAXED to get in party.

2. Ignorant hood type dudes. Because of them, there are fights over shoes, drinks, and their girlfriends choosing you. Sometimes even shots fired afterwards…

3. If you’re looking for a lady with good credit and a good job…she might not be here. MOST (not all) women at clubs are younger and/or don’t have degrees. Recent high school graduates and Burger King employees get their night to shine at these places.

This is what I’ve found out thus far. Part 2 concerning the bars and lounges is coming soon.

Play The Game Fair.

Chris