The Top 3 Things That Mess Relationships Up (That You Can’t Control)

First off…I already know. Don’t remind me that I’m slipping on my nights out. I work my material every chance I get and, these days, it’s not that often. One of my guys was in the ER all last night (the night I was going out). Stuff happens…you gotta be there for those you care about.
Now on to the topic….

As I reflect back on the past relationships that I have had, I saw a few things come up repeatedly. After asking around, I realized that many people have these same issues in their relationships. Sometimes these issues end relationships. I’m very close to a lot of military guys and, with many of them, being killed in action or their wives cheating on them while they are on a deployment is talked and joked about so often that it doesn’t become such a mental block anymore. Maybe after giving you guys these 3 things, they won’t become such a big thing in your relationships.

1. The number. There is no way around it…there really isn’t. There isn’t any good that comes from telling or asking about it either. From a woman’s perspective, there is a very high incentive to lie. Why INVITE dishonesty into your relationship?

On the man’s side, there is no number that she tells you that is going to be good enough…none. If she says just you, she might be lying. If it’s 10, she’s a ho. If it’s one other, you want to know if his penis was bigger. Just avoid it all together…

2. Insecurities. I’m not talking about the other person’s issues. I’m talking about yours. When it comes down to it…if she continued to date you, it’s not that big a deal. If you’re balding, she saw that when you came over. If it’s your money issues, she saw after the first date. If it’s something sexual (and you both have had sex more than twice), she doesn’t care…that much. Just like when you went over there and continued to get at her after you saw she had a little pooch, she has accepted your faults. Don’t make something that’s not a problem a problem.

3. Control. Please accept the fact that she’s her own person. You can call, argue, and all that other mess, but when it comes down to it…you can’t control if she cheats. It’s like a virus. You can do stuff to prevent it. You can treat her right and give what she needs (physically and emotionally). A guy can even try to treat the symptoms by getting his act together or talking it out with his significant other. Now most good women won’t cheat if they’re being treated well, but it works both ways. She can’t stop you from being with other people if you want to and you can’t stop her.

There they are. Stop worrying about these 3 things and your relationship or relationships will get better. A wise man once said (and I wish I remember who he was), “Work on what’s in your means to control, pray on everything else that’s not.” That’s real…

P.S. All you non-religious people substitute hope in for pray.


Play The Game Fair.


Chris