This is my last post until mid-July. I know many of you wanted to hear this one so here it is. The former disclaimer still applies (as in I’m not a Guru and this is just from my experience). It may be a little shorter, but this is everything (or almost everything) that I think is relevant.
Lounges and bars are the best places in my mind to game. As I have told you, in clubs the intention of women is to dance, drink, and/or fight. In a bar, a woman’s intentions are to drink, be seen, and/or mingle.
THIS MEANS THAT SHE PLANNED TO TALK TO YOU THAT NIGHT!!!
Due to the fact that talking to others is on the agenda, if you come correct you have the best chance with her. Also, in this atmosphere most women will at least be cordial. It would be impolite to not at least acknowledge you and hear what you have to say. Here, you could also use a lot more of traditional pua material. Just as a warning, still refrain from anything too “out there”. The “Do you believe in spirits?” stuff is a no no. The traditional “break up through text message” opener will actually do well.
Pros to the Lounges/Bars are:
1. You can actually use traditional pua material.
2. The women have more patience (give you more time to run your routines).
3. The women usually have more education and better jobs.
Cons to the Lounges/Bars are:
1. More quality competition.
The men here usually have more education and better jobs also.
2. More entry restrictions.
There are a lot of “no gym shoes” dress codes and the like. If you like to dress a little hood, you’re either going to have to change up, pay the bouncer a lot, or avoid them all together. Furthermore, the “Grown ‘N Sexy Affairs” might actually require you to be grown. The 25 and older requirements will keep you young players out.
3. More flakes.
The women here feel a very strong pressure to be polite. Because of this, a lot of the women here will have so-called boyfriends. You might get a few fake numbers or have familiar conversations with her voicemail. That just means that your game needs a little work. Practice makes perfect :)
Sidebar:
If she dances (grinding up close) with you here, at any point, there is some level of attraction. It’s not uncommon, but this isn’t something that she’s come there to do. To some extent she thought more of you to do so.
I apologize if I don’t give you guys an actual routine or order of interaction this time. As I’ve said, though, you can use traditional stuff here. Furthermore, I have a couple posts with my old material in them (I’m a little lazy).
Here’s a couple of other things to remember in these places before I go. The music should be lower so don’t peck…at all. When opening a set, address the whole group first. Because you can speak at a level that everyone can hear you, let everyone hear you. After her girls perceive you as “just a social guy”, you’ll be able to game the lady you’re interested in easier.
That’s all I can think of…right now. Catch you guys mid-July.
Play The Game Fair.
Chris.
Sunday, May 17, 2009
Tuesday, May 5, 2009
Speechless...
Okay....
This is what it is. I jumped out of bed and I didn't "turn my swag on". I realized I haven't been in the field in almost 3 weeks.
I can't tell you anything about how I'm doing what I'm doing if I'm not doing it (hope that made sense).
Obviously, I'm too busy to go out right now. Fortunately, I can still have the women in my life that I want...I just need more ;)
If you've read my previous posts, you know I'm ramping up to go to Argentina. And I'm not being paid to write this stuff (or put this info out)...yet. I'm really doing this for everyone else that was in my position. Hell, I'm still in that position. It's not too many of us speaking out.
So I am.
I will be back from Argentina in mid-July and that's when I will resume posting. I could be out here acting like I'm really doing it, but that's just not me. I'm going to post the info I had on bar/lounge game and then I'm taking a break. I apologize.
To keep you guys reading up, I'll give you a couple good guys to mess with:
Sinn (sinns of attraction blog)
Captain Jack (be the seducer blog)
Savoy (the real savoy blog)
http://tsbmag.com/
This one above usually is funny and occasionally has some gems.
See you guys on the other side.
Play The Game Fair.
Chris
This is what it is. I jumped out of bed and I didn't "turn my swag on". I realized I haven't been in the field in almost 3 weeks.
I can't tell you anything about how I'm doing what I'm doing if I'm not doing it (hope that made sense).
Obviously, I'm too busy to go out right now. Fortunately, I can still have the women in my life that I want...I just need more ;)
If you've read my previous posts, you know I'm ramping up to go to Argentina. And I'm not being paid to write this stuff (or put this info out)...yet. I'm really doing this for everyone else that was in my position. Hell, I'm still in that position. It's not too many of us speaking out.
So I am.
I will be back from Argentina in mid-July and that's when I will resume posting. I could be out here acting like I'm really doing it, but that's just not me. I'm going to post the info I had on bar/lounge game and then I'm taking a break. I apologize.
To keep you guys reading up, I'll give you a couple good guys to mess with:
Sinn (sinns of attraction blog)
Captain Jack (be the seducer blog)
Savoy (the real savoy blog)
http://tsbmag.com/
This one above usually is funny and occasionally has some gems.
See you guys on the other side.
Play The Game Fair.
Chris
Sunday, April 19, 2009
There’s This One Girl…
Okay guys. This isn’t what you think it’s about. You’ve heard this phrase before. Maybe it was you that said it. Pick up doesn’t help you get the girl next door…at first. In my experience if you want to get at a young lady that has constantly been exposed to you, it’s going to be hard. You’ve had all these opportunities to say something and you haven’t. She’s had all these opportunities to say something to you and she hasn’t. So how do you do it?
It’s worked for me a few times (only three) and it happened this way. A second chance meeting occurred. When I say that, I mean that we saw each other at another time that was outside our control (or appeared to be).
Examples:
You just happen to show up at her job (Not stalker-ish. You didn’t know she worked there).
You two happen to have a class together.
You just broke up with your girlfriend (This one is a stretch. Plus it can possibly set a relationship frame).
The point is that it’s sort of a chance meeting and it gives you two that chance to start the gaming process over from a different place. After this, you can start to use the new pick up skills you’ve learned as she gives this “new” you a chance.
Sidebar:
For the record…that’s not what I wanted to talk about ;) That was just a random deviation/digression from what I really had to get off my chest, sparked by the title that I just gave the post.
Back to the post…
The girl I’m talking about was the one from the past night that I didn’t approach…I basically need to put myself on blast. She was brown skinned, cute, fashionable, athletic with wide hips, hair down to her shoulders, and about 5’7 (5’11 with the heels she had on). I didn’t step to her.
Now I could chalk it up to “not being in-state” because we went to this party that I hadn’t planned on going to. I could say that I didn’t say anything because I didn’t want to, “just put my bid in” and my opener wasn’t functional. I could just play it off on the fact she caught me off-guard. At the end of the day, though, they’re all excuses. I should’ve said SOMETHING. Usually I would…but I didn’t.
I might’ve just missed out on Miss Right (really Miss Right Now…I don’t need to meet Miss Right) because I didn’t say anything.
In the end, it comes down to who misses out. If I approach and she chooses me, we both win out. If I approach and she doesn’t choose me, she misses out. If I don’t approach at all, I miss out. If someone’s going to miss out from now on…it’s going to be her.
Excuses never do any good.
Excuses are tools used by the incompetent. They build bridges that lead to nowhere. Therefore, as a Black PUA, I will never have excuses.
You guys can use that if you want ;)
Play The Game Fair.
Chris
It’s worked for me a few times (only three) and it happened this way. A second chance meeting occurred. When I say that, I mean that we saw each other at another time that was outside our control (or appeared to be).
Examples:
You just happen to show up at her job (Not stalker-ish. You didn’t know she worked there).
You two happen to have a class together.
You just broke up with your girlfriend (This one is a stretch. Plus it can possibly set a relationship frame).
The point is that it’s sort of a chance meeting and it gives you two that chance to start the gaming process over from a different place. After this, you can start to use the new pick up skills you’ve learned as she gives this “new” you a chance.
Sidebar:
For the record…that’s not what I wanted to talk about ;) That was just a random deviation/digression from what I really had to get off my chest, sparked by the title that I just gave the post.
Back to the post…
The girl I’m talking about was the one from the past night that I didn’t approach…I basically need to put myself on blast. She was brown skinned, cute, fashionable, athletic with wide hips, hair down to her shoulders, and about 5’7 (5’11 with the heels she had on). I didn’t step to her.
Now I could chalk it up to “not being in-state” because we went to this party that I hadn’t planned on going to. I could say that I didn’t say anything because I didn’t want to, “just put my bid in” and my opener wasn’t functional. I could just play it off on the fact she caught me off-guard. At the end of the day, though, they’re all excuses. I should’ve said SOMETHING. Usually I would…but I didn’t.
I might’ve just missed out on Miss Right (really Miss Right Now…I don’t need to meet Miss Right) because I didn’t say anything.
In the end, it comes down to who misses out. If I approach and she chooses me, we both win out. If I approach and she doesn’t choose me, she misses out. If I don’t approach at all, I miss out. If someone’s going to miss out from now on…it’s going to be her.
Excuses never do any good.
Excuses are tools used by the incompetent. They build bridges that lead to nowhere. Therefore, as a Black PUA, I will never have excuses.
You guys can use that if you want ;)
Play The Game Fair.
Chris
Lounges/Bars vs. Clubs (Pt. 1)
I’ve been promising this for a while. Here it goes. Keep in mind; I AM NOT A GURU and/or EXPERT!!! I’m just a guy like you who happens to practice (odds are) in the field a little more than you. This is what I’ve learned from my experience. Your experience may be different.
Now that my disclaimer is out of the way…
If I had to choose, I’d pick the bars/lounges over the clubs. The focus of the women is different in each one. This first one will be about clubs though.
Clubs have the hood chicks. I can’t lie. I have a soft spot for them. They are the ones that I am very VERY attracted to on a very (almost purely) sexual level. I love them. If you’re looking for golds in the mouth, rings in the tongue, ignorantly tight skirts, and/or real big butts…that’s where you want to be.
It is so loud in the club!!! If you’re going to talk to a chick you have to “peck” (talk in the ear back and forth to each other). I know most PUA guru’s hate this because it appears like you’re supplicating to her on a subconscious level. It’s just too loud though. To avoid this, just make sure she’s leaning in to you more than you are to her. To achieve this all you have to do is act like you can’t hear her. If she is even mildly interested in getting her point across, most hood women are, she’ll come in to you or pull you in (which is cool too because it starts the kino interaction).
You don’t have a lot of time…at all. Women come to clubs to dance, drink, and occasionally fight. You have to be relatively direct.
Examples:
“I would’ve hated myself if I didn’t say hi so…what up?”
“You went to (what ever high school is in the area), didn’t you?”
“Me and my boy were trying to figure out what was the worst pick up line. What’s the worst one you’ve heard?”
Sidebar:
If you haven’t noticed through my previous posts, this last one is my default opener with Black women. Almost always works.
Back to the post….
Hood chicks don’t have patience. They want to know what you want now, five minutes ago. These girls were actually perfectly content just chilling with their girls and going home. That doesn’t mean that they’re not open to meeting a good man. They are, but they aren’t tripping that night if they don’t either.
Here’s the order of what I’ll usually do.
1. Connect with her or make her laugh.
2. General observations with some small cold read.
3. Make her laugh again.
4. Ask her to keep you company while YOU get a drink.
Going to the bar is the escalation. If she’s interested, she’ll go. Make sure the bar isn’t too far away. That’s one of the reasons why the women I target are usually in between the bar and the dance floor. Point to it and show her girls where you two are going. Ask them if possible. Use, “just over there” and “real quick”. You can do comfort there because the two of you are alone and, finally, she can hear you without the “pecking”. This is where you want to number close. After this I usually walk her back, crack a joke to the friends, and catch her on the day two. Grinding is the equivalent of the kiss close if you’ve talked to her already (if not it doesn’t mean anything at all).
I know that the drink thing seems a little AFC-ish (simpish for players). Bear with me. Clubs are, by nature, hood. Hood chicks are coming to dance, drink, or fight. Going to get a drink gives her an excuse to isolate with you from her friends without judgment. If you're talking to a lady that already has a drink in hand, this problem is already solved.
As far as whom to game, the girls already at the bar will say anything to get a drink. Leave them alone. Girls in the thick of the dance floor are into either dancing or teasing. It’s very hard to properly game them. The ones kind of in the middle of the two give you the most play.
There are a few downsides to clubs.
1. Too many promotes. Because of this, you get TAXED to get in party.
2. Ignorant hood type dudes. Because of them, there are fights over shoes, drinks, and their girlfriends choosing you. Sometimes even shots fired afterwards…
3. If you’re looking for a lady with good credit and a good job…she might not be here. MOST (not all) women at clubs are younger and/or don’t have degrees. Recent high school graduates and Burger King employees get their night to shine at these places.
This is what I’ve found out thus far. Part 2 concerning the bars and lounges is coming soon.
Play The Game Fair.
Chris
Now that my disclaimer is out of the way…
If I had to choose, I’d pick the bars/lounges over the clubs. The focus of the women is different in each one. This first one will be about clubs though.
Clubs have the hood chicks. I can’t lie. I have a soft spot for them. They are the ones that I am very VERY attracted to on a very (almost purely) sexual level. I love them. If you’re looking for golds in the mouth, rings in the tongue, ignorantly tight skirts, and/or real big butts…that’s where you want to be.
It is so loud in the club!!! If you’re going to talk to a chick you have to “peck” (talk in the ear back and forth to each other). I know most PUA guru’s hate this because it appears like you’re supplicating to her on a subconscious level. It’s just too loud though. To avoid this, just make sure she’s leaning in to you more than you are to her. To achieve this all you have to do is act like you can’t hear her. If she is even mildly interested in getting her point across, most hood women are, she’ll come in to you or pull you in (which is cool too because it starts the kino interaction).
You don’t have a lot of time…at all. Women come to clubs to dance, drink, and occasionally fight. You have to be relatively direct.
Examples:
“I would’ve hated myself if I didn’t say hi so…what up?”
“You went to (what ever high school is in the area), didn’t you?”
“Me and my boy were trying to figure out what was the worst pick up line. What’s the worst one you’ve heard?”
Sidebar:
If you haven’t noticed through my previous posts, this last one is my default opener with Black women. Almost always works.
Back to the post….
Hood chicks don’t have patience. They want to know what you want now, five minutes ago. These girls were actually perfectly content just chilling with their girls and going home. That doesn’t mean that they’re not open to meeting a good man. They are, but they aren’t tripping that night if they don’t either.
Here’s the order of what I’ll usually do.
1. Connect with her or make her laugh.
2. General observations with some small cold read.
3. Make her laugh again.
4. Ask her to keep you company while YOU get a drink.
Going to the bar is the escalation. If she’s interested, she’ll go. Make sure the bar isn’t too far away. That’s one of the reasons why the women I target are usually in between the bar and the dance floor. Point to it and show her girls where you two are going. Ask them if possible. Use, “just over there” and “real quick”. You can do comfort there because the two of you are alone and, finally, she can hear you without the “pecking”. This is where you want to number close. After this I usually walk her back, crack a joke to the friends, and catch her on the day two. Grinding is the equivalent of the kiss close if you’ve talked to her already (if not it doesn’t mean anything at all).
I know that the drink thing seems a little AFC-ish (simpish for players). Bear with me. Clubs are, by nature, hood. Hood chicks are coming to dance, drink, or fight. Going to get a drink gives her an excuse to isolate with you from her friends without judgment. If you're talking to a lady that already has a drink in hand, this problem is already solved.
As far as whom to game, the girls already at the bar will say anything to get a drink. Leave them alone. Girls in the thick of the dance floor are into either dancing or teasing. It’s very hard to properly game them. The ones kind of in the middle of the two give you the most play.
There are a few downsides to clubs.
1. Too many promotes. Because of this, you get TAXED to get in party.
2. Ignorant hood type dudes. Because of them, there are fights over shoes, drinks, and their girlfriends choosing you. Sometimes even shots fired afterwards…
3. If you’re looking for a lady with good credit and a good job…she might not be here. MOST (not all) women at clubs are younger and/or don’t have degrees. Recent high school graduates and Burger King employees get their night to shine at these places.
This is what I’ve found out thus far. Part 2 concerning the bars and lounges is coming soon.
Play The Game Fair.
Chris
Thursday, April 16, 2009
What Breeds Confidence?
Before I even start, I want you guys to know that I knocked out 4 posts. They’ll be on here soon. I misplaced the other 3 (pretty good ones if I do say so myself) and when I find them, they’ll be up.
Here goes…
Be confident. Be yourself. Just be confident. Just be yourself. Many “relationship” experts have pushed this as advice while PUA gurus have railed against it.
Now I happen to disagree with how some PUAs argue this. They’ll say, “The person you are now isn’t getting you the results you want. Why wouldn’t you want to be someone else?” That’s not my sentiment at all. From what I can remember, I’ve never really had a problem with women. It is my belief that the community is for those intelligent men who want to IMPROVE their success with women. I believe many of you are in that same proverbial boat. The “zero to hero” story sells like crazy, so many PUA gurus sell that. From what I can tell, though, most PUAs are normal guys who just want to get more consistent. Style said it best. Pick up isn’t about being yourself; it’s about presenting your BEST self.
And now on to confidence…
Faking it ‘til you make it can only get you so far. You actually have to have something to be confident about!!! I knew this all along, but it didn’t hit home until my former main lady and I parted ways.
She was great…in every way. Could cook, was good with kids, my family loved her, and she took care of business in the bedroom. The problem was, though, she had serious desertion issues. Men always left. I wasn’t ready for a relationship and she kept pressing for one. She asked me the last time we met up, “Everyone’s always saying be confident. How can I be confident when all the men in my life always leave?” It was crazy…
Think about it though. Rich men are confident because they’re rich. Well endowed men are confident because they’re well endowed. Women naturally love confident men because it’s a shortcut (or supposed to be) for them to figure out which men have something going for themselves.
What can you be confident about? It has to be something. Are you funny? Good at chess? Do you know the episodes of “24” better than anyone else? IT HAS TO BE SOMETHING!!! If you don’t have something, get something. Work out more often, get better at your job at work, or pick that old hobby back up.
Inner game information products have become big business. It’s really not that deep. AA can only really be conquered by doing more approaches. Inner game can only come from inner confidence that’s genuine and coming from a real place. Charisma/confidence/swagger doesn’t just appear out of thin air. If you want it, you have to do something to get it. Achieving small goals or winning little contests are a good start. Now you know without buying inner game eBooks, DVDs, or MP3s. Look at all the money I just saved you ;)
Play The Game Fair.
Chris
Here goes…
Be confident. Be yourself. Just be confident. Just be yourself. Many “relationship” experts have pushed this as advice while PUA gurus have railed against it.
Now I happen to disagree with how some PUAs argue this. They’ll say, “The person you are now isn’t getting you the results you want. Why wouldn’t you want to be someone else?” That’s not my sentiment at all. From what I can remember, I’ve never really had a problem with women. It is my belief that the community is for those intelligent men who want to IMPROVE their success with women. I believe many of you are in that same proverbial boat. The “zero to hero” story sells like crazy, so many PUA gurus sell that. From what I can tell, though, most PUAs are normal guys who just want to get more consistent. Style said it best. Pick up isn’t about being yourself; it’s about presenting your BEST self.
And now on to confidence…
Faking it ‘til you make it can only get you so far. You actually have to have something to be confident about!!! I knew this all along, but it didn’t hit home until my former main lady and I parted ways.
She was great…in every way. Could cook, was good with kids, my family loved her, and she took care of business in the bedroom. The problem was, though, she had serious desertion issues. Men always left. I wasn’t ready for a relationship and she kept pressing for one. She asked me the last time we met up, “Everyone’s always saying be confident. How can I be confident when all the men in my life always leave?” It was crazy…
Think about it though. Rich men are confident because they’re rich. Well endowed men are confident because they’re well endowed. Women naturally love confident men because it’s a shortcut (or supposed to be) for them to figure out which men have something going for themselves.
What can you be confident about? It has to be something. Are you funny? Good at chess? Do you know the episodes of “24” better than anyone else? IT HAS TO BE SOMETHING!!! If you don’t have something, get something. Work out more often, get better at your job at work, or pick that old hobby back up.
Inner game information products have become big business. It’s really not that deep. AA can only really be conquered by doing more approaches. Inner game can only come from inner confidence that’s genuine and coming from a real place. Charisma/confidence/swagger doesn’t just appear out of thin air. If you want it, you have to do something to get it. Achieving small goals or winning little contests are a good start. Now you know without buying inner game eBooks, DVDs, or MP3s. Look at all the money I just saved you ;)
Play The Game Fair.
Chris
Friday, April 10, 2009
Something to Remember
I haven’t forgotten about yall. I know that there are people that read this. I appreciate all of you that do.
Jaylen!!! Cinque!!! What up fam!?!
Anyway, what I’m trying to say is…if you read this, hit me up. I respond. I NEED that feedback (and some comments) to make this blog better and make me better. I told you guys that I haven’t mastered this stuff. I’m a student of the game and I know you all are too.
It’s been a while I know. Life takes you to a lot of places. Just found out that it’s taking me to Argentina for a month in June. It’s not related to pick up (I don’t make any money off this). I’m really starting to believe that you can only serve one master. I have many passions and none of them are improving as much as I’d like them to…maybe that means they’re just hobbies ;)
I say that just so that I can reiterate what I was saying earlier. If you want to get better at this you’re going to have to give up some things. You can’t have it ALL. Few people triple major in college.
Biggest things I have been guilty of in my pick up journey, even now sometimes, is that I read A LOT of material. I like to see what everyone has to say. Much of it seems to be repeating itself and marketed as “new” or “revolutionary”. Whatever. Another thing that I used to do a lot was get too comfortable in the interactions and not escalate. I was just happy that they were having a conversation with me and seemed interested.
YOU HAVE TO TAKE IT PAST THAT!!!
My cousin, a serial entrepreneur of the legitimate kind, always used to tell me that, “Scared money don’t make money”. Without any risk, there is very little reward. Read less pick up material and risk more in the dating scene.
Play The Game Fair.
Chris
Jaylen!!! Cinque!!! What up fam!?!
Anyway, what I’m trying to say is…if you read this, hit me up. I respond. I NEED that feedback (and some comments) to make this blog better and make me better. I told you guys that I haven’t mastered this stuff. I’m a student of the game and I know you all are too.
It’s been a while I know. Life takes you to a lot of places. Just found out that it’s taking me to Argentina for a month in June. It’s not related to pick up (I don’t make any money off this). I’m really starting to believe that you can only serve one master. I have many passions and none of them are improving as much as I’d like them to…maybe that means they’re just hobbies ;)
I say that just so that I can reiterate what I was saying earlier. If you want to get better at this you’re going to have to give up some things. You can’t have it ALL. Few people triple major in college.
Biggest things I have been guilty of in my pick up journey, even now sometimes, is that I read A LOT of material. I like to see what everyone has to say. Much of it seems to be repeating itself and marketed as “new” or “revolutionary”. Whatever. Another thing that I used to do a lot was get too comfortable in the interactions and not escalate. I was just happy that they were having a conversation with me and seemed interested.
YOU HAVE TO TAKE IT PAST THAT!!!
My cousin, a serial entrepreneur of the legitimate kind, always used to tell me that, “Scared money don’t make money”. Without any risk, there is very little reward. Read less pick up material and risk more in the dating scene.
Play The Game Fair.
Chris
Sunday, March 15, 2009
One in the Same (WR 6)
I’ve been a little disappointed with my main lady in the past few weeks, which has been (to no surprise) really good for my research. As I told you in previous posts, I am in a NPHC fraternity (I won’t tell you which) and there were brothers from out of town that I didn’t get to show a good time and I’m slightly upset about that.
That said…
My boy (the Natural from before) wanted to show me a good time so we decided to roll to this house party. We were invited by a mutual friend that had been invited by one of her friends. For the record, this is a dual-edged sword gaming at house parties. A PUA Savoy has stated (and I’ve found it to be true looking back), that house parties are good because everyone will think that you’re at least pretty cool because you got invited, but if you mess up a set really bad it can destroy your chances with the rest of the women at the party.
When we first arrived, it was a little slow. There weren’t that many people there yet and people knew, for a fact, that they had never seen us before. We looked like party-crashers. Of course, PUAs never really trip. I just introduced myself to everyone that appeared the most laid back and that pretty much diffused it. After doing so, I kind of broke one of the rules. You’re not supposed to drink before opening a set. The Natural wanted to take advantage of the free alcohol and I refused to let him drink alone ;) After three shots, we got back into it.
Sidebar:
There is this revolution in pick up going around (not really). It basically revolves around you actually enjoying yourself. Yes, YOU actually enjoying YOUR SELF. I know, I joke I joke. I kid, I kid. What I’m saying, though, is by actually having fun when you go out and being social because you want to (you HAVE to get to this point I believe to get really good), you won’t have to worry about appearing needy or your body language because it will become natural…and that’s where we want to get anyway right?
Back to the story…
We get back into it, and there’s this drinking game going on. We participate and a few girls do also. I spot a lady I want to approach. She’s about 5’6 feet, light skinned, cute face, as body like she works out, and appears to have a more professional appeal to her than hood. I tease her about watching the game by telling her drinking games aren’t spectator sports. I joke with her until she decides to play. Because of the nature of the game we were playing, I couldn’t run normal game on her. So I continued to flirt and she did also. It’s going back and forth and the Natural starts to flirt with her also. It’s funny because I’ve kept things pretty neutral up until now due to the fact she hasn’t invested enough to warrant a statement of interest (basically completely letting her know I’m feeling her). The Natural is indicating too much interest too soon. It borders on the “just put my bid in” mentality. She’s starting to not feel comfortable being around. After the game, I follow up with a little screening dialogue (How did you know about the party, etc.). I feel someone watching me and it’s a very metro sexual guy. He looks like one of those guys that tried out for Day 26 and got cut. “Oh yeah. That’s my boyfriend.” I don’t like hard work. I move on.
We go down to play pool for a bit with a couple guys that were in the drinking game. They’re telling me about a tattoo party and I’m interested. You wouldn’t know it if you seen me, but I have eight tattoos and a brand (they’re addictive). I took their contact info and kept it moving.
In a new set with a new group of girls. It’s three of them, only two are cute though. One has real bad acne, but she’s real cool. The one I was going after was about 5’5 feet, dark skinned, dressed well, but a little hood. Her lips stood out along with her attitude. The group didn’t hook though. The one I wanted was used to being the “cute one” and it had gone to her head. I couldn’t swing it.
I’m back with the girl who invited our friend to the party. I find out this is an Air Force party and they’re throwing it for a girl that’s re-stationing. I get excited. For one, I’m prior service and for two that gives me conversational ammunition (Where are you originally from, etc.).
Fight breaks out.
We get back to partying and I see a girl I had approached in college that didn’t work. I can tell I’m obviously doing better than she, but why rub it in her face. My actions already are. She knows she missed out ;) I meet two girls, both Air Force, and they’re both from down south. I opened with worst pick up line. Teased about them going AF instead of Army. Joked about them being involved in the fight. Befriend and pretend to like friend more than the one I want. Ask the one I’m interested in if she’s really got to see the area (Most military people hang with military people. They don’t get to see how a town really is because they don’t know anyone from the area.). Then I contact info close.
Another fight breaks out.
I see another lady I want to approach. She’s 5’9, wide hips, light-skinned, beautiful, with nice lips, and the professional type. I open by asking did she see the fight. She’s seated and away from everyone else so I tease her by saying she threw the party and now she’s chaperoning it. I fake cold read, “Wait…you’re in the Air Force aren’t you”. Chat it up about us both having a military background. I ask where she’s originally from. She’s from North Carolina and that’s where I’m relocating later in the year. I jump into a role-play. “If in NC and somebody bump me, will this thug face get me out of a fight.” Of course, I can’t stay hard and we’re laughing about it. I broke through the defenses. I’m trying to escalate, and then I see the ring. She tells me she’s married to a Marine. I don’t mess with marriage…boyfriends, but not husbands. Games over, but I do a little more comfort. I tell her I’ll save her from the Souldja Boyz that try to get at her. Later on I use her for social proof, by smiling or sticking my tongue out at her jokingly while in other sets (of course she responds favorably).
Oh yeah…remember the guy fake R&B singer? So we practiced a little AMOG’ing. The Natural got at my initial target while I spoke to “Chico”. Can’t really get into specifics because I don’t really know what we were doing. It was just funny.
The LAST fight of the night.
The police came. We left. It was crazy. The whole party just started fighting. Why? Know one knows. No one swung on any of my people so we pretty much let things go. The people that tried to break up the fight ended getting in fights themselves. I don’t do too much of that anymore. People that break up fights get shot.
Overall good night. Ol’ girl already contacted me as of writing this. Good stuff. You just have to keep going out to keep getting better.
Play The Game Fair.
Chris
That said…
My boy (the Natural from before) wanted to show me a good time so we decided to roll to this house party. We were invited by a mutual friend that had been invited by one of her friends. For the record, this is a dual-edged sword gaming at house parties. A PUA Savoy has stated (and I’ve found it to be true looking back), that house parties are good because everyone will think that you’re at least pretty cool because you got invited, but if you mess up a set really bad it can destroy your chances with the rest of the women at the party.
When we first arrived, it was a little slow. There weren’t that many people there yet and people knew, for a fact, that they had never seen us before. We looked like party-crashers. Of course, PUAs never really trip. I just introduced myself to everyone that appeared the most laid back and that pretty much diffused it. After doing so, I kind of broke one of the rules. You’re not supposed to drink before opening a set. The Natural wanted to take advantage of the free alcohol and I refused to let him drink alone ;) After three shots, we got back into it.
Sidebar:
There is this revolution in pick up going around (not really). It basically revolves around you actually enjoying yourself. Yes, YOU actually enjoying YOUR SELF. I know, I joke I joke. I kid, I kid. What I’m saying, though, is by actually having fun when you go out and being social because you want to (you HAVE to get to this point I believe to get really good), you won’t have to worry about appearing needy or your body language because it will become natural…and that’s where we want to get anyway right?
Back to the story…
We get back into it, and there’s this drinking game going on. We participate and a few girls do also. I spot a lady I want to approach. She’s about 5’6 feet, light skinned, cute face, as body like she works out, and appears to have a more professional appeal to her than hood. I tease her about watching the game by telling her drinking games aren’t spectator sports. I joke with her until she decides to play. Because of the nature of the game we were playing, I couldn’t run normal game on her. So I continued to flirt and she did also. It’s going back and forth and the Natural starts to flirt with her also. It’s funny because I’ve kept things pretty neutral up until now due to the fact she hasn’t invested enough to warrant a statement of interest (basically completely letting her know I’m feeling her). The Natural is indicating too much interest too soon. It borders on the “just put my bid in” mentality. She’s starting to not feel comfortable being around. After the game, I follow up with a little screening dialogue (How did you know about the party, etc.). I feel someone watching me and it’s a very metro sexual guy. He looks like one of those guys that tried out for Day 26 and got cut. “Oh yeah. That’s my boyfriend.” I don’t like hard work. I move on.
We go down to play pool for a bit with a couple guys that were in the drinking game. They’re telling me about a tattoo party and I’m interested. You wouldn’t know it if you seen me, but I have eight tattoos and a brand (they’re addictive). I took their contact info and kept it moving.
In a new set with a new group of girls. It’s three of them, only two are cute though. One has real bad acne, but she’s real cool. The one I was going after was about 5’5 feet, dark skinned, dressed well, but a little hood. Her lips stood out along with her attitude. The group didn’t hook though. The one I wanted was used to being the “cute one” and it had gone to her head. I couldn’t swing it.
I’m back with the girl who invited our friend to the party. I find out this is an Air Force party and they’re throwing it for a girl that’s re-stationing. I get excited. For one, I’m prior service and for two that gives me conversational ammunition (Where are you originally from, etc.).
Fight breaks out.
We get back to partying and I see a girl I had approached in college that didn’t work. I can tell I’m obviously doing better than she, but why rub it in her face. My actions already are. She knows she missed out ;) I meet two girls, both Air Force, and they’re both from down south. I opened with worst pick up line. Teased about them going AF instead of Army. Joked about them being involved in the fight. Befriend and pretend to like friend more than the one I want. Ask the one I’m interested in if she’s really got to see the area (Most military people hang with military people. They don’t get to see how a town really is because they don’t know anyone from the area.). Then I contact info close.
Another fight breaks out.
I see another lady I want to approach. She’s 5’9, wide hips, light-skinned, beautiful, with nice lips, and the professional type. I open by asking did she see the fight. She’s seated and away from everyone else so I tease her by saying she threw the party and now she’s chaperoning it. I fake cold read, “Wait…you’re in the Air Force aren’t you”. Chat it up about us both having a military background. I ask where she’s originally from. She’s from North Carolina and that’s where I’m relocating later in the year. I jump into a role-play. “If in NC and somebody bump me, will this thug face get me out of a fight.” Of course, I can’t stay hard and we’re laughing about it. I broke through the defenses. I’m trying to escalate, and then I see the ring. She tells me she’s married to a Marine. I don’t mess with marriage…boyfriends, but not husbands. Games over, but I do a little more comfort. I tell her I’ll save her from the Souldja Boyz that try to get at her. Later on I use her for social proof, by smiling or sticking my tongue out at her jokingly while in other sets (of course she responds favorably).
Oh yeah…remember the guy fake R&B singer? So we practiced a little AMOG’ing. The Natural got at my initial target while I spoke to “Chico”. Can’t really get into specifics because I don’t really know what we were doing. It was just funny.
The LAST fight of the night.
The police came. We left. It was crazy. The whole party just started fighting. Why? Know one knows. No one swung on any of my people so we pretty much let things go. The people that tried to break up the fight ended getting in fights themselves. I don’t do too much of that anymore. People that break up fights get shot.
Overall good night. Ol’ girl already contacted me as of writing this. Good stuff. You just have to keep going out to keep getting better.
Play The Game Fair.
Chris
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