Grinds My Gears

My fellow journeymen…

I understand that we are all on the path to get better and, as such, feel we deserve the best. I understand that. I agree with you. What I don’t agree with, though, is some men and their misunderstanding of a relationship. The ideal relationship, whether fully committed or not, is 50/50. No one puts in more or gives more to the relationship than another.

CHEATING IS NOT PLAYER, PIMPISH, OR SMOOTH!!!

Misleading a woman is the exact opposite. You are lying to a woman in order to get what you want. Lying in court is perjury. Lying on an application is small scale fraud. Lying on your company’s books could land you in prison for years. So what would make anyone think that lying to someone you sleep with is any different?

An open relationship is player. Having three or four fb’s that know that they’re not the only one is pimp-ish. Hell, being able to stay undefined with a woman for a long period of time is even a little smooth. Lying is out-right wrong. It makes you look weak. Little boys hide and break the rules. A man will be upfront about the situation (not blunt…there’s a difference).

A great rule of thumb to know if you’re being a stand up guy in your relationships is how many of your ex’s are still cool with you. Think about it….

Also…listen to Musiq Soulchild. Often, he isn’t saying “I want only you” in his songs. He just has a way of letting women know what he wants in a relationship.

Play The Game Fair.

Chris